Divorce is on the rise in society
Osman Gani
Marriage is a sacred social bond, which is one of the most important chapters in human life. It is a reflection of the bond between not only two people, but also two families and, in a larger sense, a society. Marriage is a unique way to build stability, love, mutual dependence and trust in human life. But the rate at which this permanent relationship is breaking down in society today has really made us worry. The divorce rate is increasing alarmingly day by day. The decline in social values, family tolerance and morality is further intensifying this crisis.
Once upon a time, divorce was a rare event and was frowned upon in society. Now many people no longer consider divorce as a matter of embarrassment or shame. It has become a new trend in society, which is having a profound impact on the mentality, outlook on life and social structure of the younger generation. One thing that is very noticeable in this regard is that most divorces occur within the first five years of marriage. Why a couple fails to understand each other in such a short period of time, why there is a lack of mutual sympathy and understanding - this is our concern.
In today's society, young people have become accustomed to personal freedom. They give priority to their own choices, freedom and interests rather than social and family rules and regulations. Marriage has become like a contract for them, where separation is chosen as an easy solution if there is a slight difference of opinion or trouble. However, marriage is a lifelong commitment, where there is a promise to share everything - good and bad, happiness and sorrow.
Women's economic independence, extensive participation in the workplace and increased self-confidence are certainly a positive change. However, its impact also affects marital relations. Many times, if a woman earns more than her husband, the balance of the relationship is lost. The husband suffers from inferiority, while the wife avoids responsibilities by thinking herself independent. Again, if the husband is not able to earn or cannot give enough time, then conflicts arise. In this way, financial matters come to the center of the relationship and human and moral values become secondary.
Another major cause of the problem is busy life. Nowadays, in almost every family, both husband and wife are working. As a result, it becomes difficult to give time to the pressure of the family, to take care of the child or to relax mentally. The emotions of married life, romance, spending time together, conversations, small trips - all these are created. This deficiency starts from this deficiency and eventually leads to separation.
Social media is having a new negative impact on married life. While the correct use of technology is beneficial, its misuse can also cause terrible harm. Now in many relationships, it is seen that the husband or wife is maintaining excessive contact with strangers. This contact often violates confidentiality, which gives rise to suspicion and distrust. When there is a lack of trust in the marital relationship, it becomes difficult to maintain it.
Another major cause of separation is family interference. Many times, in-laws or family members interfere excessively in the couple's personal life. Even if there is a minor quarrel or disagreement between husband and wife, relatives or neighbors make a big deal of the matter. As a result, the crisis deepens. Especially if mothers interfere excessively in the son's family, or if the father's favoritism towards the daughter becomes excessive, then the problem becomes complicated.
Children suffer the most tragic consequences of divorce. Just as children raised in a healthy family have confidence, social etiquette and mental stability, children raised in broken families experience lack of confidence, uncertainty and mental instability. In many cases, they lose interest in studies, become prone to crime, and even become drug addicts. If they do not get family sympathy and love, children turn to friends, the Internet or television, which leads them on the wrong path.
In this context, the importance of religious teachings is immense. Marriage is considered sacred and important in every religion. Although divorce is permitted, it is still advised to accept it as a last and involuntary solution. If husband and wife can understand each other, admit their mistakes and manage the relationship on the basis of mutual respect, then the situation of divorce can be avoided to a large extent.
We need to take some important steps to resolve this crisis. First, we need to take initiatives to increase awareness about family education and marital relations in the society. Education about family values and responsibilities can be introduced at the school and college level. Second, it is necessary to have a system of mandatory counseling before and after marriage. In this way, new couples will get an idea about the complexities of relationships and will acquire skills in solving problems.
Third, it is necessary to spread positive family-centered messages in the media. Currently, most TV dramas and movies show relationship breakdowns, infidelity, and polygamy. This sends a wrong message to the young generation that relationship breakdowns are very common and irresponsibility is a modern trait. If instead of these, qualities like love, respect, sacrifice and patience are highlighted, then positive changes will take place in society.
Will come Some changes are also needed from the legal side. In case of divorce, the court should make it mandatory to complete the mediation and family counseling process, which should be included in the law. Many times, the decision to divorce is taken suddenly out of anger, jealousy or mental depression, which later gives rise to regret. If there is an opportunity to correct one's mistakes, then many families can be saved.
Finally, it must be said that marriage is more than a relationship—it is an institution that forms the foundation of society. When this institution becomes weak, society loses its balance. The future of children becomes dark, crime increases, the incidence of mental illness increases and intolerance increases among people.
Therefore, divorce should not be an easy solution. Mutual understanding, empathy, forgiveness and responsibility are needed to resolve the complexities of relationships. Instead of breaking up relationships for minor mistakes, we should try to understand each other. Family is like a tree—the one who takes care of it gets its shade. And if that tree is uprooted, not only a single person, but the entire society is affected.
Divorce today is not just a case of two people separating, it is a reflection of a social, moral and psychological crisis. The foundation of relationships is weakening day by day, because we are forgetting the value of patience, compassion and sacrifice. When minor mistakes or differences become the reason for separation, then we must understand that the deficiency in family and social education is deep. To sustain a relationship, it is not only love, but also mutual respect, understanding, giving time and giving importance to each other.
Every relationship has problems - but how we deal with those problems determines the stability of the relationship. Divorce should be the last option, not an emotional, hasty decision. The family is like a tree - if it is not taken care of, it withers. If a happy family can be built in society, then a healthy generation, a safe society and a balanced state will be built. Therefore, it should be the commitment of all of us to protect the family.
The writer is a journalist and columnist.He can be reached at email - postnews25@gmail.com
