Mir Abdul Alim

The family is the cornerstone of society. Its stability and protection are fundamental to social progress. However, in recent times, this institution has faced significant challenges, one of which is the increasing prevalence of second marriages and extramarital affairs. While some attempt to justify second marriages on religious grounds, the reality is that such practices are disrupting familial harmony and destabilizing social equilibrium.

The Past vs. The Present

From a religious perspective, second marriages are permissible but conditional. In the past, when polygamy was more common, societal norms, economic structures, and the status of women were vastly different. Multiple marriages often served as a means of ensuring women’s security and social stability. However, the dynamics of the modern era are entirely different.

Women today are no longer as economically dependent or vulnerable as they were in earlier times. With access to education and professional opportunities, they have achieved significant independence. In this context, a man's second marriage often leads to family discord and emotional instability.

Impact of Second Marriage: Erosion of Family Peace and Relationships

Many justify second marriages by citing religious or "legal" grounds. However, the reality is that such decisions place tremendous psychological, social, and economic burdens on the first family.

1. The Position of the First Wife:
A second marriage often leaves the first wife feeling humiliated and devalued. It undermines her self-esteem and has a detrimental impact on her mental health.

2. Impact on Children:
The strain in the parents' relationship adversely affects the children. They may feel neglected and insecure, leading to long-term emotional distress.

3. Disruption of Family Bonds:
A second marriage often fragments family unity, creating divisions not only within the immediate family but also among extended relatives.

 Extramarital Affairs: A Silent Destroyer of Relationships

Extramarital affairs, or romantic relationships outside marriage, pose an even greater threat to family life. These not only shatter trust between spouses but also break the foundation of the family unit.

1. The Impact of Betrayal:
An extramarital affair devastates the betrayed partner’s confidence and self-worth. It causes immense emotional pain and often leads to social embarrassment.

2. Collapse of Family Structure:
Affairs frequently result in the breakdown of families. They affect not only the couple but also the children, who suffer irreparable emotional damage.

3. Wider Social Consequences:
Extramarital relationships are not just personal issues; they undermine societal values and could eventually lead to larger social crises.

Misuse of Religious Interpretations

Many promote second marriages under the guise of religious permissibility, conveniently ignoring the fact that such permission comes with strict conditions. Religion allows second marriages under exceptional circumstances, emphasizing justice, responsibility, and respect for existing relationships.

Unfortunately, in contemporary times, this provision is often exploited for personal gain or emotional gratification, neglecting its original purpose and context.

Solutions: Emphasizing Values and Ethics

To prevent the detrimental effects of second marriages and extramarital affairs, societal and familial values must be reinforced.

1. Importance of Education:
Families should prioritize teaching the value of relationships and respect for commitments from an early age.

2. Correct Religious Teachings:
Religious teachings should be propagated in a way that highlights the true essence of marriage and the conditions under which second marriages are permissible.

3. Psychological Counseling:
Couples facing difficulties in their relationships should seek professional counseling rather than resorting to second marriages or extramarital affairs.

4. Legal Measures:
Extramarital affairs and unethical practices should be addressed through appropriate legal actions if necessary.

5. Role of Media:
Media can play a significant role in promoting family values and highlighting the importance of maintaining healthy relationships.

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Conclusion

Second marriages and extramarital affairs are causing significant disruptions to family harmony and bonds in today’s society. This is not merely a personal issue but a societal concern. By practicing religion, law, and morality correctly and instilling familial education, these challenges can be addressed.

We must understand that preserving relationships is one of the greatest achievements in life. Everyone should remain conscious of protecting the trust and unity within their family, as family is the ultimate refuge and source of true happiness.

The writer is a, Bangladeshi writer, columnist, and journalist.